"We light these five candles in honor of you."

"This candle represents our grief. The pain of losing you is intense. It reminds us of the depth of our love for you."

"This candle represents our courage: courage to confront our sorrow, to comfort each other, and to change our lives."

"This candle is in your memory. We recall the times we laughed, the times we cried, the times we were frustrated, the silly things you did, and the caring and joy you gave us."

 "This candle is the light of love. As we enter the long nights of winter, we cherish the special place in our hearts that will always be reserved for you. Each day, we thank you for the gift your living brought to each of us."

 "And this candle is the light of hope. The love and memories of you are ours forever. It reminds us that the glow of the flame is our source of hopefulness, now and always. We love you."